Question: I am currently going through a divorce. Things haven’t been right in my marriage for a very long time and as such it has broken down beyond repair over many years. Marriage is obviously very important in the eyes of God, and I was wondering about how to ethically form new relationships now. I am from the UK where it can take up to 2 years to get divorced. Can I enter into a normal relationship during this time?
Answer: We sometimes attribute our cultural norms and national laws to a divine Source. In my view, marriage is a covenantal relationship… that covenant is between you and your spouse, and if you have both agreed to release each other from the covenant, then I would guess the marriage is in actuality over (regardless of how long it takes for the paperwork to reflect that). I wish you could repair your relationship, but if that isn’t possible, then I see no reason to avoid living your life as fully, joyously, and responsibly as your circumstances will allow. My hope is that you and your spouse will experience healing in the ways that you most need and that you both will find happiness again.
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